Aug 02 2009
Friendships
I am not a person with a lot of people I call friends. I have had acquaints and people I may just hang out with from time to time. There is one person in my life who I called my friend and she was my best friend for 31 years. We were closer than my mother or my sister the change has been good for me. I have been thinking that when people start to grow up they change so for the good, others stay the same. I have seen my life change over the years and I believe I am a better person. I have changed due to a lot of trials and tribulations. I have been through a lot in my adult life and I have made mistakes and learned from them. As for my dear friend, I have never judged her in anything she has done or said, I was just there when she needed to vent or something was wrong. I listened to her and stood by her side whether she was right or wrong.
I think there come a time in life where friends can grow apart especially when the are headed in two different paths or want different things out of life. I realize that I do want more. I no longer want to be surrounded by negative people and people who want nothing out of life. Is that wrong of me? I want a better life and in order to obtain that I have to surround myself with positive people who want the same thing( a more prosperous life). This friend has been nothing but negative for quite some time now and I tried to ignore it because she is my best friend. But in the last few days things went bad. She supported me working by watching my kids because she has a daycare and I supported her in the same way by letting her keep them because this was her business and I wanted her to be successful in it. But when I didn’t like something she did and decided to let the kids stay home for a few days she got pissed. Let me explain, she is the type of person that does not like to be told something is wrong or when she does not get her way. So I have always avoided telling her because of the reaction I would get. I see her do it to other people all the time. Me not telling her when she was wrong it my fault and I do take the blame for that. I just did not want the confrontation that would come with it. But now she has blown up at me and has said some pretty nasty and hateful things to me. How did I respond, by ignoring her and not feeding into the tantrum. I think that is the adult way to handle it. What do you think?
Anyway after all the nasty and hateful comments, she says that I was never her friend anyway. How can she say that? I think it is time for me to let go and let GOD. I think I was growing apart from her anyway. I still consider her a friend but it will never be the same. I don’t want to talk to her now. And I have already forgiven her for the things she has said and will say in the future. I still love her but I think it is time to move on.
Hey Sis…this is a wonderful example of the separation that often occurs when Light enters an equation. Know this, she is not rejecting you but what is in you, and the enemy wants to play on our emotions and have us cut off those who need Christ most. Sis, continue to shine in her presence, pray for her and know that God will work a work through you in her life!
I understand that. God has already done some work but it was like the bible says, Jesus could not teach or preach in His own city of Nazareth. I fully understand what that means now. But the seed gets planted anyway as long as I am obedient.