Aug 25 2010
Marriage Over Time
Today I was surfing and thinking about my hubby and how for we’ve come. We have been married for 10 years now and we have quite a bit of history under our belts. We have been through our ups and downs. We have had our disagreements, fights and make ups, we were learning. We created a family and we have our very own little people to raise.
This is us in the beginning of a new life together. We didn’t have the slightest idea what we were getting ourselves into but we wanted to be together.
We had a son already, we kind of started the family first. But I knew that he was to be my husband as soon as our son was born. When we were filling out the papers in the hospital for our sons birth certificate the nurse checked the box that said we were married and she had given me his last name. That was the message letting me know then we were brought together for a reason but I didn’t know that then. I just told the nurse we weren’t married. I had to tell her 3 times before she got it right. Three years later we were walking down the isle.
In between the time we had two more kids. Girls! They are a hand full and so much more active and busy than boys. That is a whole other story. But this is us 10 years later. I think we look the same yet all grown up!
All this is to say that marriage is a blessing and so many people take it for granted. They give up at the drop of a hat or when things don’t go their way and it gets a little hard they quit. It is not easy, it is hard work and anything worth having takes some work. They put so much effort into maintaining so many other relationships, be it friendships, professional relationships and any other type of relationship which has you involved with someone or something. We are so busy thinking about ourselves in in our marriages and how we feel we are being treated we don’t stop to think about how we are treating our mate. The divorce rate is so high because we don’t honor the vows and the covenant that we made between each other and God. We listen to our single friends who encourage us to be single, “It’s so much easier this way, you don’t need him/her.” Some people give you bad advice on purpose and some really don’t mean for their advice to be taken that way but it ends up like that. When we are hurt by our mate we don’t want to forgive them, we will hold a grudge, but we can forgive a complete stranger or somebody that it a little close to us for hurting us. We treat our mate like our enemy instead of with unconditional love. Learn to love your mate with the same love you give your children. When your kids hurt you or do something wrong you are still by their side helping them to go through whatever it is they have done. Why not your wife/husband? The love should be no different.
Marriage is a learning and accepting experience for life not just in the beginning. You never stop learning things about each other and you take the good with the bad. And pray for the bad to be turned for the good. Put God first in the marriage anyway and you will see it in a whole new set of eyes. Bless you
